Updated: Nov 1
Ever feel like you’re stuck in a rut? Stale? Limping along?
Or wonder when things will ever go your way after a series of unfortunate events?
I imagine that everyone reading this has felt this at one time or another. Sometimes, it is just hard.
And that is OK.
Sitting in the anxiety, grief, pain, frustration, (add your own emotion here) is a valuable exercise to conduct. It is important to truly understand the “why” of your emotions (as well as the associated thoughts and actions you have too – because let’s be honest, they all work together). This reflection and time are critical to reconnect with yourself and eventually move yourself forward.
Some questions you can ask yourself to dig in deeper are:
What is really going on?
Why is this upsetting to me?
What is it has triggered these emotions for me?
How are these emotions serving me?
And when all else fails, ask yourself “why” multiple times to get to the source of the matter.
As you do this, you will gain greater self-awareness and the ability to start to make decisions about what you really want to do with this information. There are some times when staying in the pain will serve you well, but there are many more times when finding inspiration or motivation to move forward is needed – not just for yourself but for the people around you (direct reports, bosses, peers, family, friends, etc.) What we often forget is that our energy has a significant impact on people that we come into contact with – yes, even on Zoom. We can’t hide what we are feeling, not really…and those emotions are contagious to others whether we want them to be or not.
There is a theory (aka The Law of Attraction) that “like attracts like”. The same holds true when we are feeling down, or stuck in a rut, or unmotivated – we are putting that energy out there and in return, are getting it back again. This creates a perpetual cycle for you and those you are connected with; without a shift, that cycle will create toxic environments, reduce productivity, and decrease quality of work.
So, what do you do?
You pull yourself up by the bootstraps.
Not literally (and in theory this sounds easier said than done), but the power of thought becomes the hero here and gives you the ability to choose how you really want to show up. Getting there may take some strong coping mechanisms like:
Venting with a friend
Reframing the situation
Working with a coach
Exploring other possibilities to understand the situation fully
And filling your cup with whatever fills your cup…
You, and only you, have the power to decide what you want. Will you let this situation, these emotions, or this lack of motivation have the power over you? Or will you take one step forward to shift yourself in a new direction?
The choice is yours.
And if you want to explore coaching to shift your rut, WeInspireWe is here for you.